Friday, April 27, 2012
when life hands you lemons.
As you can imagine, this completely puts a bump in our smooth transition, as we are planning to stay in Spokane until the end of June so the kids can finish the school year. Honestly though, good problems, right? Our house sold and that's the most important thing. So, it looks like this family will be packing up and taking advantage of temporary housing for about a month. An adventure!
As you can also imagine, the children of this family are not so amused with the date-modification. Heck, if leaving your friends isn't hard enough, now you get to watch all of your bedroom collections be packed away into boxes, and then you get to cram into a hotel-complete-with-kitchenette for a WHOLE MONTH... with your whole fam-damily! Cha-ching! I don't think so.
So, life handed us a lemon or two, what can we do? Here's what I have been deciding over the last few days, as I bear witness to my children's sometimes crumbling emotions over the deal: I'm switching my role as 'sympathetic mom' to 'encouraging mom.' Encouraging mom can and will be empathetic, don't get me wrong. And maybe on a really lucky day, one might find sympathy from me. But what this family needs is some good, positive, we-can-do-this vibes. I'm all for reflecting upon what we are losing and my children have EVERY right to experience their emotions of sadness, but I feel like it's not what we need to focus on. We hardly need to feel sorry for ourselves. We are a good, strong family unit and we are very fortunate in life. This move could just as well be the bestest thing we ever do for our family. Perhaps one day, after we are living in Pittsburgh for a while, a kid will look up to me and say, "I love my school and all of my friends. I'm so glad we moved here." So, rather than feel sad when I see my children sad and let the guilt eat me alive, I am going to remain positive and upbeat. It's easy to turn into a pile of mush when kids are hurting, but I'm going to actually attempt to lift them up out of their despair... and hopefully lift myself up as well. This move can be sooooooo fun and awesome and amazing! If only we let it be that.
Let's turn those lemons into lemon bars! Lemonade is so overly used! And lemon bars are the BOMB!
P.S. So who's going to remind me daily of my new role, when the poop starts hitting the fan?